Recently I have been meditating on the psychology of birth order and how it affects ones personality (weird, I know usually I think about kittens and puppies and how cute they are or what I would do if I was caught in a zombie apocalypse). Perhaps this has come about, as my youngest brother is about to embark on the University experience while mine came to a close just over a year ago.

There are three of us in my family and therefore we have the stereotypical birthplace orders, the Oldest, The Middle Child, The Youngest. I’m not sure how the psychology of birth order relates to those with more or less children, I have a friend who is one of six, and then I have friends who are only children. I’m sure there are traits associated with any and all possible family units. I’m sure that there is a difference if you are a child of divorce, if grandparents or other guardians raised you, or if you are from a family with same sex parents.

The three of us as Babies

But what interests me at the moment is seeing the theory of Birth Order psychology in practice in my own family, especially in relation to how the three of us transitioned from High School to University

As we grow into adults, it will be interesting to see how we develop, and what our birth positions had to do with the way we developed, where our lives too us. What we achieved or perceived as important goals and milestones in our lives.

Us a little older: Kip, Me, Riles

According to the first website I looked at when I typed in “Birth Order Psychology” which you can view here (as you can tell, my writing is extremely well-researched) over half of the American presidents have been first born children.

The article says

Clearly, firstborns are natural leaders. They also tend to be reliable, conscientious and perfectionists who don’t like surprises. Although, firstborns are typically aggressive, many are also compliant people pleasers. They are model children who have a strong need for approval from anyone in charge.

Interesting. I am the first born in our family, and definitely a leader type. I don’t know that I am a perfectionist – I’m kind of sloppy actually. For sure can be described as aggressive and also a huge people pleaser, and have always felt like I need approval from my parents or other figures in authority.

Lets take a look at what they say about my brother Kip who is the middle child

These kids are the most difficult to pin down. They are guaranteed to be opposite of their older sibling, but that difference can manifest in a variety of ways. Middle children often feel like their older brother gets all the glory while their younger sister escapes all discipline. Because the middle child feels that the world pays him less attention, he tends to be secretive; he does not openly share his thoughts or feelings.

Middle children may not feel they have a special place in the family so friends and peer groups become much more important. They can usually read people well, they are peacemakers who see all sides of a situation, they are independent and inventive. If a firstborn is a company’s CEO, the middle child is the entrepreneur.

Interesting. When we were small, apparently Kip only wanted to do the opposite of what I did. He lived in my shadow quite a bit and hated it at school. I was academic, sporty and always in plays, clubs and after school activities. Kip was always into gadgets and technology. He for sure is a peace-maker. Always writing wrongs in our little family. He is definitely independent – jetting off to Europe on a whim, and inventive. He is always the one fixing things and coming up with things.

Hmmm.

Lets see if this theory can go three for three and see what they got on Riley, the youngest.

Babies of the family are social and outgoing, they are the most financially irresponsible of all birth orders. They just want to have a good time. Knowing that these kids love the limelight, it’s no surprise to discover that Billy Crystal, Goldie Hawn, Drew Carey, Jim Carey and Steve Martin are all lastborns.

While lastborns may be charming, they also have the potential to be manipulative, spoiled or babied to the point of helplessness.

“The last born is the one who will probably still have a pet name although he’s 29 and has a masters degree.”

Huh! Well there you go. I wonder what 18 year old Riley “Little Pants” thinks about that!

 

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The offical Family portrait: Riles, Me, Kip